This article focuses on the mechanics of managing fear itself. If you are dealing with coming out to important people in your life or another serious situation, in addition to what you read here, you should read material on that particular subject.

Fear can best be described as the great disabler. Unresolved it can greatly influence a person's choices. This is so to the point one may not act in his or her best interests. Or, a person may not act or react at all, since he or she may feel too immobilized or not have enough information to deal with a situation.

Shock may occur during or after a dramatic event. If this happens to you, reassure yourself that its okay to feel afraid or uncertain because almost all situations are manageable. If you are in danger and its possible to leave, do so promptly. This will allow you to look at things from a distance and deal with them at a time of your choosing once you have gained support for your needs.

If you cannot leave, such as with a confrontation, stand your ground. Call out for help. Make a scene. Best yet, inform the individual that you won't be his or her victim. Alternatively, outsmart your attacker by doing something repulsive to drive him or her away. Figure out a way to make the perpetrator so uncomfortable he or she wants to leave.

Be cautious with the 'overkill' fear sometimes inspires. Just because you feel afraid does not always mean a situation warrants a reaction. For instance, a stranger pointing out that you are transgendered may be doing solely just that. Not every person who points out the obvious is intent upon harassing you, some people are only expressing their curiosity because they perceive you as different or even attractive.

Keeping a sense of perspective is also necessary when dealing with anticipatory fear or concern involving upcoming events. Both life and transitioning gender holds a variety of experiences. Rather than allowing oneself to become bogged down by fear and indecision, it can be useful to reframe matters as a new adventure or challenge. Doing this should not minimize the concern you feel but rather add a positive perspective to the situation.

Although nobody likes feeling uncomfortable, feelings of fear generally warn us to be careful. When we accept the challenge to preserve life and grow as people we can also expect uncertainty as we look ahead. Yet, more often then not, you are not always dealing with the unknown. Talk with your friends, support group members and counselor. Ask how others have dealt with similar situations.

After you have moved along your heroic journey and dealt with a fearful situation, be certain to acknowledge it. You might write about it and your success, and share it with others. Alternatively, you might keep these private experiences in your journal or diary, so that you may reflect back on them for later encouragement when fear arises again.