Prior to transition many new men and women spend a considerable amount of time in traditional relationships. Often they daydream about what it would be like to have their own time and place to dress and transition. When events unfold and this all becomes possible, many find living alone to be depressing and distinctly isolating. Even worse is the prospect of growing old and dying without anyone.

Before we can even begin to address isolation issues, we must briefly review depressive thinking and how depression amplifies reality to the point life's other possibilities become impossible. Depressive thinking predicts you will never find love, never be attractive, definitely have no redeeming qualities, it even claims that you are uninteresting as a human. In all likelihood these things are untrue.

These is no escaping the loneliness and isolation when you allow depression to steal your hopes, dreams or rob your creativity. If you are dealing with these issues you must become vigilant and learn how to avoid 'all or nothing' thinking. When you hear yourself saying that 'good things will never happen,' that is the best time to recognize the depression speaking, practice ignoring it, and devise plans to make good things happen for you.

Living alone does not have to be isolating or depressing. Although it can be somewhat harder for more mature transgender persons to build long-term relationships, many individuals find satisfaction with short-term or part-time relationships. While it may be easier for young persons to be drawn into attraction, maturity can give you the insight to seek a level of participation in a relationship which best suits your needs.

Dare I mention pets as companions? A wonderful cat or great dog often beats a human counterpart hands down for people who are alone but don't want a relationship. Pets are never late paying bills. Usually they don't talk back. Cats and dogs make divine snugglers. However, if you can't stand the animal dander, consider a human 'roommate' as an alternative. As with any relationship, you can seek a roommate who has your beliefs or find one who will bring different interests and experiences.

People who do not want relationships or roommates, do not have to live isolated lives. No one needs to act helpless on these issues. If you live alone, you can join support groups, or start a social group with interests similar to your own. You might mentor young people or take up photography. With time on your hands, it is also possible to volunteer at organizations which need your caring. Nothing stops you from becoming active within a community or improving your quality of life.

Many people have found a place of peace living alone. It's easier to take better care of yourself without others demanding of your private time. You might even use your quiet time to write, study or sew. Whatever you do, make your living space your home. With some effort you might even come to find that the company of one, yourself, is just right for you.