Do you feel constantly pushed to join the transgender bandwagon? Do you crossdress and just want to stop? Would you like to put transition questions behind you as if they never existed? As transgender persons become more socially accepted in some areas, these type of questions are becoming more commonplace.

There are also a variety of motivations for these questions. Many individuals have deep-seeded fears of being discovered, and have no intention of coming out to families, friends and co-workers. There are crossdressers who are unhappy being different from other men. One recent client stated that dressing was too much of a cross to bear, and wanted a referral for medications that would take away his desires.

To add to matters, not all crossdressers self-identify as being transgender. Some transgender persons specifically lack interest with participating in community. Yet, in a broad sense, each of these persons is transgender in some way, and they rightly deserve recognition for their special needs. For many this means not being looked down upon for having intermittent feelings of uncertainly, even disdain toward dressing or gender questions.

Crossdressers are unique among the transgendered because they are satisfied with their natal gender. Yet, a deep fragment of their self must crossdress for mental relief and to experience feelings that cannot be satisfied in their ordinary lives and regular activities. Crossdressing fills these voids.

Transsexuals are individuals with a permanent, opposite-gender identification. On the other hand, transgenderists, for a variety of reasons, have a variable identity which needs a careful balance of masculine and feminine gender identity. Whichever a person has, he or she cannot have a complete self-identity without a stable, acknowledged gender identity.

Are these things set in stone? Generally not, however, one point is clear. If a person has reoccurring gender questions or a desire to crossdress, these will reappear until one of several things occur. A person can ignore matters and allow self-destructive feelings and poor coping mechanisms to control his or her future. Or, an individual can come to terms with his or her needs and carefully-pace getting questions answered.

A physician might even prescribe a short-term anti-anxiety or anti-depressant medication. These medications will not however do anything to solve the gender conflict or person's need to crossdress. So again, we come back to dealing with reality. What generally works best is for transgender men and women to recognize that changes are on the horizon, and assess which segments of life can be preserved.

One of the greatest concerns brought to gender specializing therapists and counselors, is the individual's fear that exploration of gender issues will equate to immediate transition and losses. This is not however customarily the case, particularly since the individual often has no experience 'living in role.' He or she would not yet have enough information to determine whether permanent transition is right or wrong.

The most that can be said for the person, is he or she is operating under the belief that moving forward is the right thing to do. Those who have no experience living in role, at least part-time, have no business plunging headfirst into transition. Why jeopardize your job? Why lose your family? Please, learn all you can about transition before coming out to employers or loved ones.

Are you looking for a sure-fire cure of your gender questions or crossdressing? Then, I suggest, you carefully get involved in making your dreams happen. Once you are set on that path, then you truly can say you're tired of transgendered. Over time your issues will gradually resolve, things will improve, and transgender will no longer be constantly haunting you.

Interestingly, once a person has crossdressed for a significant amount of time, or settled into transition and is enjoying new foundations, gender issues become about other people. They may be the ones with the questions, concerns, even the denial. And, as you gradually learn how to not let others difficulties impact you, matters may improve more than you ever imagined. Sorting out crossdressing and gender questions is something you can do.